The life of our dreams doesn’t just magically fall into our lap. Instead it’s something we need to cultivate, and this takes certain skills which usually aren’t taught during school, higher education or even our career. Coaching offers us the tools we need in order to progress. It’s no different to hiring a tutor when we want to learn a new language. Of course we can always try and learn on our own but by hiring a professional, it skyrockets our progress and catapults us to great heights. This is why coaching can be so beneficial for many of us.
Reassess your belief systems
Do your beliefs align with the person you want to become? Do they uplift you? How does your internal voice speak to you? It could be with love and support or constant critique. Our limiting beliefs can sabotage our efforts and hold us back from living a life of joy. We are hard on ourselves, we make excuses and doubt what we are capable of. We don’t believe we are deserving of the life we want to lead. The way we view ourselves is skewed and inaccurate due to past traumas and experiences. A coach allows us to delve deep into our psyche and ascertain whether what we believe about ourselves supports us or is even true. This shake up of our paradigm can provide us with true freedom to be who we were born to be.
Reconciling the Past
In order to move on, we need to make peace with the past. Many of us seek this in the form of one more conversation with an ex partner, having it out with an employer or clearing the air with a family member. While this can be helpful, often the best person who can give us closure is ourselves. By speaking with a trusted coach, we can explore this and finally free ourselves from that which holds us back. Let go of the hurt, the pain and disappointments. It’s time to get excited for life.
Often when we try to make big changes, we have an instinct to retreat into our shell and stick with our current and comfortable way of life. It’s natural to get hooked on that safe feeling we have in our comfort zone. There are no surprises, we know what to expect and there’s no danger of failing. But guess what? There’s a very real danger of not growing. Life truly begins when you get out there and experience it with full force. Some of our greatest adventures occur when we are thrust into difficult and confronting situations. We realise that we are resilient, strong, capable beings and this gives us the confidence to stretch our comfort zone out even further. A coach can serve as our biggest cheerleader, there to push us when we feel an overwhelming fear to stick to what we know. All it takes is someone to guide us in the right direction - to a life of inspiration and freedom, rather than comfort and security - because that is not where the magic happens!
Sometimes we know we want something more from life but we don’t know what that is. Coaching helps us to uncover our inner yearnings and desires, this can allow us to discover a kind of life that brings absolute joy and fulfillment. When we try to do the work on our own, things can feel overwhelming or uninspiring. Sometimes the answers are right in front of us but we just can’t see it and that’s where coaches can help provide that clarity.
Finally know what you want to do? Well it’s not going to happen without taking MASSIVE action. Staying on target with your aspirations can be really hard. We procrastinate, we make excuses and sometimes we just give up. Having someone to guide us through the process and empower us to keep going is invaluable. Our coaches are on hand to help build indestructible plans with timelines - it’s time to smash some goals.
Having a support network is vital to keeping up morale and also being held accountable. Coaches are there to provide the support and guidance you need but also hold you accountable to specific action in order to achieve your goals. This isn’t as scary as it sounds, it’s not a forceful approach. In fact, the process of actually discussing your action points out loud with someone like a coach already makes them more real and achievable. You will drive yourself into action instead of procrastination knowing that your coach will check in and help you progress closer to these goals.
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