It was an old Greek called Socrates who first came up with the idea of asking questions as a way of having an intelligent conversation.
"Nature has given us two ears, two eyes, and but one tongue - to the end that we should hear and see more than we speak."
That's why executive coaches advise their clients to give other people most of the talk time whenever a discussion is in deadlock.
It's that kind of simple, time-honoured wisdom that companies and individuals pay a lot of money for in the corporate world. Making the simple switch that enables them to start listening to people and to be more prone to asking questions instead of giving quick, is what people pay coaches for.
Once you've downloaded Niggle Pro you get that practically for free.
Niggle asks the right questions, and all you have to do to get the benefit of coaching is to listen to and act on your responses.
How do I feel when I read that question? Why am I feeling that? What do I really think about that? Why do I think that?
You could of course stand in front of a mirror and ask yourself lots of questions but (apart from the fact that it would be weird!) it's the kind of questions you ask that make the difference between a chat and a coaching session.
You need different kinds of questions at each stage of the conversation and there are six basic types of questions that go into a coaching conversations:
- To gain clarity
- To probe assumptions
- To explore rationale, reasons and evidence
- To examine viewpoints and perspectives
- To probe implications and consequences
- To get to the root of it
This is the full spectrum of questions that professional coaches use and it's these same categories in the Niggle Pro database that enable you enjoy your own coaching session whenever and wherever you like.
If you haven't already, give it a try.